Three year anniversary of dad's passing.

Is it just another ordinary day? Well, we celebrate birthdays...and as you've seen in Harry Potter, there's such a thing as a deathday.

Three years have passed since what perhaps was the longest day of my life. My emotions that day ranged from panic, fear, hopelessness, shock, and numbness. A year later, I still cried about it, remembering what happened. Last year, I still cried and just felt sad. A few months later, I wrote an essay in Chinese for my class about that day and my teacher cried. I did too, as I was asked to read it out loud because it was well written. But this year, I didn't cry. If I think about it, I might. But for now I'll just concentrate on the good.

I'm really grateful for anyone who supported me during that time and the following months. There were only so many - but I know it's really hard to comfort someone in that kind of situation, especially if you've never been in it yourself. I'll never forget anyone's kindness in that time. I only wish I could have been there as a better friend when my own friends suffered that kind of loss.

My dad is gone, but it's almost like he's never left. He lives on in my memory. We still laugh about him, in a good way. His old glasses are still in the house, as are his books - old science textbooks mostly, from the 70s. We'll have to get rid of them eventually, though, as we will have to move at some point. But I felt sad leafing through them.

Today in my new acting class, we were reminded that life (er, acting) really is all a journey. If it's your passion and you really love it, stick with it. You'll never know where you'll be next. Yes, my dad would scoff at me if I ever told him I wanted to act and he'd tell me not to be craaaaazy (as he said it). But I guess he'd love me all the same.

Daddy, I'm still thinking of you.

(My sister: But today's the 18th.... So me: it's tomorrow??...My bad. January 19, 2008. That is the date. Blog edits are in order!)

Side Project: Travel Blogging

All right, so after responding to countless listings on Bruinview, which is the UCLA career website...I came across one which was for youth travel writing. Out of the goodness of my heart, I'm going to write some posts for Rollinglobe. I'll also have to write some reviews of the establishments I frequented in my life abroad. I just started, so all I have is my introductory post with my gushing enthusiasm for living life abroad which you may have heard already in one form or another. Did I say GUSHING ENTHUSIASM? I really mean it! If you have nothing better to do with your lives at the moment, just go abroad!

Why don't I keep my own travel blog, you might ask? Well...I attempted to do so here. However, if you click that link, which you're more than welcome to - you'll see I only managed a paltry three posts...all written while I was abroad, though, so I suppose that adds a slight amount of authenticity to my writing. So maybe, with the title of being an unpaid editorial/social media intern for Rollinglobe, I might actually force myself to write more! ;]  What happened to all those travel stories which are just floating around in my brain, anyway?

In any case...I have to go back to concentrating on my life and making a real living. I suppose there is a bit of soul searching to be done..and also another blog post to come.

2010, the year I traversed the world

I intended to write a post summarizing my life in 2010 on December 31, but did not get a spare moment to do so as I was frantically attempting to tidy up my miserably messy abode as I had invited a special someone over to our home.

So, my friends, I'm sorry that I have to offer this post a whole five days into the year 2011.

I rang in 2010 in a large warehouse in the 798 District in Beijing with a couple of friends from France and an Israeli friend of mine. The 798 District is basically a bunch of art galleries housed in formerly abandoned warehouses in the northeast part of the city. Straight from a party with my Thai and Korean friends, I arrived dressed in my trusty purple qipao, despite the below freezing point temperature.

I was finishing up my first semester of the Chinese language program at Tsinghua University - the number one university in all of China, though not known for its Chinese language program. I was torn over whether I should stay at Tsinghua for another semester or head back to America.

At one point, I had a conversation over dinner with my friend Sun - who is a delightfully sarcastic and pleasing Chinese Irishman. I debated over whether or not I should return to America, move back to Los Angeles, and pursue my dream of acting. He encouraged me to do so - and that I should do so while I still had that drive and goal. A difference of a semester would only be several months, but perhaps it would be vital.

Needless to say, I stayed for another semester. Whether or not that was beneficial for me is debatable as my Chinese probably did not improve very much as my mind wandered aimlessly as I sat through Advanced Chinese I. Nonetheless, I met some new friends and performed in a couple more shows - including BITE's Shakespeare Reveries (the link features a photo of me - uncanny!), a performance loosely described as Shakespeare improv, directed by Ian Reed. Additionally, I did a bit of freelance voice work and was even credited on the cover (without my knowledge) of an English textbook. Pretty nifty, right?

There was a period when I realized how lonely it can be to be an actor...or any type of artist for that matter. I had a close friend of mine agree to come to one of my shows, only to not show up. He promised to attend the next one, only to cancel an hour before the performance with the excuse that he really just wasn't interested in plays. I expressed my disappointment, given all the time I had put into rehearsals and the fact that these things mean a lot to me.  I really love the stage - and I know that sometimes I will be alone in my love as it is something which not everyone can understand or enjoy. But I did have other friends show up, so I'm glad I had their support.

As far as my travels go, I did a fair amount in 2010. I spent two weeks in Vietnam in what I describe as my most hectic and least relaxing trip - mainly due to bumpy roads and women being violently ill for hours in the sleeper buses...in addition to the thousands of motorbikes, occasional cheats, and the questions of whether or not I was Vietnamese a dozen times a day. In June, I spent another week or so trekking about the southeastern part of China - reaching Guilin, Lijiang, and Shangri-la. I befriended a Chinese girl at a hostel in Kunming. She was amazed to discover that beyond my Chinese appearance, I would say things that definitely would identify me as *not* being Chinese.

Instead of flying straight home to America after my semester ended, I decided to make a detour in Europe as a one-way ticket to San Francisco from Beijing was ridiculously expensive. It would cost me about the same to fly to Europe and then to SF, so I figured the Europe route was much more exciting than a straight shot home. I flew to Norway, where my friend Jon graciously allowed me to stay at his home. Following that, I did my solo journey over to Berlin, Dresden, Prague, Cesky Krumlov, Brno, Vienna, Budapest, Krakow, and Warsaw. Along the way, I met a few new and old friends - much love to my dearest Annie who followed her love to Poland. Of course, by naming all of those cities, you can't really imagine any of my experiences - but I'll save that for another post as I think it has been proven that people have short attention spans and will begin to skim blog posts after a certain length.

I finally touched back down in America in September. Since then, my life has definitely gotten a lot less interesting and a lot more confusing with the threat of real life. Interestingly enough, my Israeli friend (who was present at the New Year's rave) told me that that idea was bullshit. Real life is whatever is right now. The fact that I was abroad made no difference. That life was as real as it would be. Well, save the whole commitment to living in America part, I suppose.

In attempt to give myself some more formal training, I enrolled in classes with Film Acting Bay Area and Studio A.C.T. I audited another class with a teacher who was terribly rude to me (I'll give you the story if you'd like). Project-wise, I starred in a student film called Bipolar Express, which will be finished sometime later this month. The film is about a couple who meet for the first time after an online flirtation. I'm supposed to be the bipolar one (seems like a natural role for me). Additionally, I made my first trip back to Los Angeles on my 24th birthday in November to attend ActorFest - which reminded me that acting is really a business down there. (The afterparty definitely wasn't an afterparty, though...just had to throw that in.) In December, I had the supporting role of the sexy neighbor in a modern adaptation of Beauty and the Beast, as I mentioned in my post below. Anyway, I'll definitely have to sharpen those auditioning skills as I haven't always been the best at those. The same goes for interviews!

But I know I've been blessed with what I have. I don't really have much reason to complain. Sure things could always be better, but hey 2010 definitely wasn't the worst year of my life.

So, this time, instead of ringing in the new year in a gigantic abandoned warehouse in Beijing, I rang it in with the fireworks, hot chocolate, and 'tall, dork and handsome' next to the Ferry Building in San Francisco. Pretty good stuff :] Hello 2011!

Rejection is just a part of life, after all

It's not that big of a deal...well, as time goes on. Sure, the first few times you get rejected...say from a school play, your dream school or the supposed love of your life...it's heartbreaking. It really is. You lose a bit of faith in the world, humanity, and yourself...and you really, really just want to cry.

Last night, I attended a meet-up organized by my friend, Regina Chien...on rejection therapy. She read this article about how Jason Shen took the 30-day rejection therapy challenge - an idea formed by a Canadian guy named Jason Comely. Basically, to summarize, the person who undertakes the challenge will find ways to get rejected in an attempt to gain more confidence and push himself out of his comfort zone. So Regina being the outgoing Regina that she is e-mailed Jason to set up a meeting, which honestly I thought was a bit crazy (of course in a good way)!

As an aspiring actress, I've already had plenty of rejections when it comes to landing roles. Maybe it was the pimple(s) on my face (yes, probably!), or maybe I'm not tall enough or skinny enough or pretty enough or Chinese enough. Nowadays I don't even really bat an eye, unless I am cast but then suddenly then cut due to a lack of funding for me to be in it. Acting rejections aside, I have the many failed job interviews and failed attempts at love. So, I really didn't need to go to a rejection therapy event as I have plenty of life experience with it and moments where I've cried my heart out, but I'm a good friend!

The meeting was great - and we even happened to randomly call over internet sensation Everett Bogue who speaks of his minimalist philosophy and his friend Maren Kate who is an opponent of the 9-5 job as they stumbled inside in search for food. We wrapped up the meeting on top of the roof of Medjool, watching a small fraction of the lunar eclipse. (Unfortunately, San Francisco skies prevented me from seeing the BLOOD RED part...)

I personally wouldn't need to put myself through a thirty day challenge to be on good terms with rejection - but it is an interesting concept. And what doesn't kill you just makes you stronger...as the old saying goes. Right?

And as a side note, I drove the farthest distance I have driven in 3-4 years. This was...seven short blocks to Safeway. Go me! (Yes, I need to drive more.)

It's my life, and it's now or never...

I ain't gonna live forever!

Hi there, I'm Felicia Hom and I love singing this particular song by Bon Jovi every time I go to karaoke.

I've decided to start a blog detailing my life as an aspiring actress...or change-my-mind-and-insert-something-else here. Currently the road is murky and I am the only one who can wake up and clear the road.

Honestly, I feel like I'm being a bit crazy and unrealistic for deciding to pursue such an aspiration in my life. I, of course, am Chinese American with those familiar Asian American values which mold perceptions of what is success. My mother is a computer programmer, my sister is in medical school at UCSF, and my little brother is studying to be a pharmacologist. My father passed away nearly three years ago and probably would scoff at the idea of me acting.

I graduated from UCLA with a double major in Political Science and Business Economics and a minor in Accounting in 2008. I'd like to mention that just so that you know my sometimes seemingly vapid and air-headed brain can sometimes apply itself to something. I'm well aware that I still need to expand my range of knowledge. Also, I'm funny - you may come to realize this.

After graduation, I traveled to at least seventeen countries. I spent a year living in Seoul and another year in Beijing. While I was abroad and having quite possibly the best time of my life, I awakened to this crazy idea that I seriously wanted to pursue acting. There's still a very long road for me to go, if that is the case.

This past month, I was in a modern adaptation, written and directed by Rey Carolino, of Beauty and the Beast at Shotwell Studios in the Mission. There! Just so you know that I haven't been completely inactive in my hunt...